On Littlespace

After having a conversation with Daddy, I had a thought. One that I'm sure many new caregivers especially have had. So, you're a Little, and that's fine with your Daddy or Mommy but "what does this do for you?" or "why do you do it?" they may ask. Littlespace to the outside world looking in seems like this perplexing thing that takes years to fully understand and come to terms with, but the fact is it's really not as much of an enigma as some make it out to be. The simple answer is that we Littles retreat to our littlespace for one reason: it makes us happy. No matter what causes you to go there, the reason any Little goes into littlespace at any given time is because it makes them happy. That answer should suffice, shouldn't it? Unfortunately, no. For most caregivers, it still does not give a clear explanation and raises the next question, "but why is that what makes you happy?" That, my friends is where the answers get complicated. Not because of littlespace as a thing itself, but because each person comes with their own backstory, set of problems, worries and fears. So, why is it that that makes you feel good?

I don't personally like using generalizations, but this one is, at least, mostly true. Each and every person you see when you go outside has something they use to cope. Life is hard. There are struggles and ups and downs, and dealing with it all can be tough. That's where littlespace comes in for a Little. I'm going to explain to you what "littlespace" is, and how it works, at least for me, and affects my life.

So, you may be wondering, what exactly is "littlespace"? This is probably the first question on every new caregiver's mind, or anyone with no prior knowledge of Littles. Littlespace is a peaceful, pleasant, regressive state of mind where worries, fears, and anxieties melt away being replaced with a sense of calm, happiness, and relaxation. So when a Little says that their littlespace makes them happy, it quite literally does. See regression therapy for more info.

What makes littlespace such a wonderful thing for anyone who enjoys it, is that there's no wrong way to do it! The entire point of littlespace is to be comfortable. I am at my most content when I have the opportunity to wear my onesie, hold on to my lamby Cody with my paci, and watch cartoons with my softest, snuggliest blankie. It's such a freeing feeling because you can escape from your negative feelings for a while.

Speaking of negative feelings, littlespace should always be a positive place. For Littles, especially those of us with anxiety or other issues, littlespace is a safe place. Nothing can hurt you there or make you feel down. As a Little with anxiety and SPD (sensory processing disorder), this is so important to me because even daily struggles can get me down, but littlespace is there to help me fix it and give me a break so that when I come out of littlespace, I can tackle my problems with a clear and level head.

Now, there are some who believe that littlespace is solely a coping mechanism but the truth is that it's not. A Little doesn't always have to be stressed beyond reason to go into littlespace or to need it. Being Little is generally a part of someone's personality and they've probably always shown Little traits. Littles tend to be more childlike by nature, and this is why you can't actually pick and choose when a person can feel Little. I have varying degrees of littleness, so to speak, and it seems as if the headspace comes and goes as it pleases. This should not be seen as a bad thing. It's not bad when a gamer gets excited over a new game, or when a foodie is thrilled to show you their latest culinary find. None of those are bad things, so let's take a look at why a Little may go into littlespace without being stressed, and why non stress related littlespace is the best. Stress free littlespace triggers may include (but are not limited to):

• Seeing an object they really, really like

• Being called Little one, baby, little girl/boy, etc.

• Seeing their favorite color

• Being served their favorite food

• Talking to their caregiver (if you have one)

• Wearing cute clothes, or what makes them feel comfortable and/or attractive

• Children's shows or movies

• Being talked to like a baby or little kid

• Bedtime routines

• Wearing, seeing, or being put into a diaper

• Sippy cups and/or bottles

• Pacifiers (usually called "paci" or some other shortened version)

• Coloring

• Being ordered for at a restaurant

• Being silly

• Just being appreciated for who you are

Anything stress free is always better than something brought on by discomfort or tragedy, and littlespace is no different. Don't make your Little One, or yourself, feel like you have to have some big reason to go into littlespace or that it's unjustified if you're not stressed. The time that you allowed to be truly happy should be limited by no one, not even yourself. You are different, not bad or wrong. You deserve it and owe it to yourself to be happy, just like anyone else!

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